Once again Jennie Allen's words have wrecked me in the best possible way. In her new book, Nothing to Prove, she shares why we can all stop trying so hard. Full of personal stories and scripture, this book is sure to be one that I will come to again and again for inspiration and guidance.
A while ago I read Anything by Jennie, with the Influence Network book club and it too completely tore me up. Jennie's fears and thoughts always seem to be pulled directly from my head, but with a seminary background and a much better track record with Bible study, she can also share the truth found in God's word to fight those battles.
You Are Not Enough
That hurts doesn't it? We try so hard to be enough (whatever that is). But we aren't and we won't ever be. "God already knows you are not enough, but He's not asking you to be. We are the ones who have chosen to walk through the desert with enormous packs strapped to our backs full of everything but water," (pg 32). There. That. That is the reason we can stop trying. Our trying will never EVER measure up, but it's okay because He has already taken care of the lack on our part. When we accept that we are not enough, we have nothing to prove!
"...to get to the place where God can be enough, we have to first admit that we aren't." pg 39
I've always known that comparison was a thief to my joy. I knew that feeling like I wasn't good enough was detrimental to my ability to step out in faith and for my sanity for that matter. But when I read the words, "I am realizing it's not my curse that I believe I am not enough; it's my sin that I keep trying to be," that I absolutely lost it. I wept hard. We're talking full-on ugly cry, people.
Honestly, these have probably been the most powerful words in the whole book for me. My sin is trying to be enough, trying to go it alone, trying to not need His sacrifice. Because if I am enough, then I get the glory. If I do things all by myself, I get the credit. But none of us are self-made. We are made by the Potter's hands, fashioned in His image for His glory. I have nothing to prove because I'm not the one that will get the glory anyway!
They Aren't Enough Either
As a stay-at-home mom, there are times I can feel lonely. I get used to not talking to another adult all day that sometimes I still don't say much to my husband in the evenings. OR I can get time with another mom during a play date and end up talking her ear off because I don't remember talking to another human outside my family. But often, even after a great girls' night or one of those play dates, my soul is still lonely. "Loneliness is meant to be an invitation to draw closer to God. But our tendency is to try frantically first to meet that need in people, to prove to ourselves that we are lovable and funny and worthy of attention," (pg 106).
I'm going to admit that I crave and fear being known by anyone. Vulnerability scares the living daylights out of me. And even if we are vulnerable with others, nobody can completely know you or me the way Christ can. He hears every thought (scary, I know) and knows all of your secrets (even scarier). BUT! BUT He loves you anyway. Our friends have nothing to prove because they are not meant to be our everything; He is!
"The lie is that good things like community, authenticity, confession can take the place of connecting with Jesus." pg 106
I could go on and on about the truths in this book. I could share quote after quote. But then I'd be writing a book too. Instead, I want to tell you to RUN out and buy this book. Grab a bunch of women you love to read alongside you. And I promise you will be changed.
I want to share one last quote with you from the very last chapter. "As we step into His streams of abundance, we live in freedom and peace. No more bondage. No more striving. No more performing," (pg 232).
Get your copy of Jennie Allen's brand new book, Nothing to Prove, here.
Disclaimer: I received this book for free as part of Jennie Allen's launch team for the book. Erika Bault is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com